Insecurity is a fairly common obstacle–which I find pretty disconcerting because it’s typically an unwarranted one. How many times have you felt insecure about something that everyone tells you you’re great at? I’m sure all of you have experienced this at least once.
I’ve been struggling with insecurity a lot over the past few months and I’m finally starting to overcome it. It’s been a funny battle, really.
If you haven’t noticed, I haven’t published a new blog post in a while. It’s been over four months since I last wrote for Glitter & Grandeur. Those of you who have been around for a bit probably know that I used to publish a new piece at least once a week. For a short period of time, I was publishing twice a week. Now, I’m lucky if I get one piece out per month. So, what happened?
Insecurity got the best of me.
Over the past few months, I’ve started to write on several occasions and each time I’ve let my insecurities take over. You’d think that since I’m a full-time Content Marketing Specialist now, I’d feel confident in my writing abilities. And I do–when I’m at work. But when I come home and sit down to write, the insecurities come flooding in. I start to ask myself, is this valuable content? Will anyone care to read this? Gosh, I wish I had an editor. Have too many people written about this topic already? What makes my opinion unique?
In my determination to overcome my insecurities, I’ve realized I’m not alone in this. Everyone has insecurities of some sort.
Some people say insecurity is a sign of humility and I think everyone can benefit from remembering this sentiment. While we should all strive to keep our insecurities from overcoming our lives, a healthy amount of insecurity (or humility) is good. The sweet spot straddles the line between humility and low self-esteem. So, how do we achieve that? I have a few ideas.
1. Surround yourself with supportive people
In all aspects of life, it’s important to have a support system – to surround yourself with positive people who want the best for you and are willing to help you achieve it. Sometimes it can be hard to find that niche of friends but I’ve been pretty lucky recently. My girls over at Wheat & Wildflowers Photography have inspired me with their drive to start their own photography business while balancing work, school, raising their families, etc. You name it–Jess and Silvia are accomplishing it. Even Liz with ReBloom Boutique is balancing her women’s clothing business with working full-time and being a wife. I could name people in my support group all day but I’ll stick with these for now. After all, I am sporting ReBloom clothes in most of these pictures and all of the photos in this post were taken by Wheat & Wildflowers Photography.
2. Stop comparing
While I love reading posts by other bloggers, it’s easy to get trapped in a spiral of comparison. It’s difficult to remember that everyone has their own journey and experiences. Nothing good comes from comparison. Just stop doing it.
3. Practice gratitude
Be grateful for what you have. Some people don’t have as much as you–and some have more. Either way, practice gratitude for the blessings you do have in your life. You are talented. You have people cheering you on (I’d know because I’m one of them). Be gracious to yourself and support others in their endeavors.
4. Focus on the positive
This is my mantra and I try to approach every day with this mindset. No matter how insecure you are in your abilities, find one positive thing about the experience. Here’s an example: sometimes I look back at a piece I wrote and think it’s utter garbage. Instead of trashing it, curling up in a ball, and crying about how I failed–I choose to shake it off and celebrate the fact that at least I wrote something that day.
5. Get some fresh air
Nothing helps clear and reset your mind more than some fresh air and a little exercise. If you’re trying to convince yourself to move past your insecurities but are struggling to start, get outside. Go for a walk, sit on your porch, or drive with the windows down. Take a deep breath and remember to take things one step at a time.
6. Step out of your comfort zone
This is the hardest one of all–in my opinion. Sometimes you just have to take a leap of faith and get out of your comfort zone. Maybe you’ll surprise yourself! The important thing is that you try. Don’t worry about what others will think. Don’t focus on what could go wrong. Just try something that scares you. Eventually that discomfort will dissipate and you’ll have conquered one facet of your insecurity.
With these tactics, you can be on your way to overcoming insecurity and believing in yourself. Confidence is learned. It is practiced. Keep your head up and use these tactics to achieve the confidence you desire. Just remember that a small amount of insecurity is healthy. It keeps your confidence at a compassionate level. For more self-improvement tips and tricks, check out my Motivational Monday series.
Now, what are your insecurities and how can I help you overcome them? Comment below!