Hey, Mom! Mother’s Day is just around the corner & I want to take a couple minutes to share with you (and the world – Hey, Internet People) how much you mean to me. Spoiler alert: it’s a lot. 🙂
So here goes…
I know that I was a pain growing up… not only did I keep you in labor for a while, but we also argued like cats and dogs when I was a teenager. I swear I didn’t disagree with you to spite you. It was subconscious – the usual girl thinking she’s growing up and therefore doesn’t need her mom. I later learned that’s not true.
Anyway, I regret every time I ignored your opinion, slammed a door to make you mad, walked away during an argument, or said every teen’s favorite words “I hate you. You’re ruining my life.”
I wish I had never done any of those things.
Because you don’t deserve it.
I see now that you’ve always wanted what’s best for me.
You’ve stood by me through thick and thin – especially this past year & a half.
You welcomed me with a smile & a hug anytime I came home from college or Oklahoma.
Comforted me when I was sad.
And calmed me down when I was mad.
You’ve listened to me vent over the stupidest things – such as not understanding how to use a can-opener (you thought teaching me how to cook and do laundry before college was enough…I proved you wrong), not knowing where to find something in the grocery store, whining about problems outside of my control, and so much more.
You’ve given me tons of advice when it comes to boys, work, cooking, cleaning…basically just life in general.
I could list things all day but instead I’ll move onto other topics.
Like what you’ve taught me throughout the past 25 years:
Family is number one.
The way you work to take care of everyone is incredibly inspiring. You are a blessing to so many people. Plus, you’re basically Super Woman when it comes to balancing all your duties. Whenever someone needs your help, you’re there.
Take things one day at a time.
You tell me this on a daily basis. Technically, you say, “Not everything has to get done at once”. You’re the reason “baby steps” is my life motto. Not only do you urge me to keep from overdoing things but you push me to still use my time in a productive manner. You encourage me to be the best version of myself that I can be while not overdoing it.
Live a life where you can support yourself but still have fun
It’s important to live your life and make decisions that allow you to stay afloat (financially and healthily) while still being happy and creating lasting memories. You’ve taught me that when making a budget, it is important to not only be able to pay my bills but to also have some extra money put aside for fun and making memories.
Friendships can last a lifetime
I admire the friendships you have with Girl & Peggy. You’ve known them since high school and you still get together every Christmas and Steeplechase. You’ve taught me that it’s hard work to maintain friendships over the years but it is possible. Girl & Peggy aren’t the only friendships you’ve kept over time but I’ve always seen the three of you as the grownup version of The Babysitter’s Club or The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants or something – the unbreakable bond between friends that withstands the test of time.
Once again, I could go on and on about this but these are my top four. 🙂
Before I finish, I want to thank you for several things. (This is where I’ll probably start crying. As you know, I cry about everything… :P)
Where to begin….
Thank-you for giving birth to me (I guess that’s a good place to start).
For raising me with manners, southern charm, respect, a proper education, a love of books, healthy habits, and a drive that can’t be extinguished.
Thank-you for taking me to the audition for “Dear Santa” at Aiken Community Playhouse and forcing me to audition and sing for my first panel of judges. That day sparked the long journey that brought me to my Master’s Degree in Musical Theatre from the prestigious Oklahoma City University.
Thank-you for instilling in me a love of horses – which led to volleyball – which led back to theatre. Full circle, as you can see.
For teaching me to respect my elders, as well as authority.
For letting me dream – and chase my dreams, no matter how far-fetched they may seem.
For cheering me on in the audience at every single one of my performances.
And making sure to smile at high school and church performances (because I told you everyone always looked so stone-faced and it made me nervous).
For subsequently crying at almost all of those performances – hopefully because you were proud and not in pain from smiling. 😛
Thank-you for taking care of me and supporting me over the past year and a half that I’ve been on this auto-immune journey with vasculitis.
For taking me to all the initial doctor’s appointments when we thought this would be a short-lived allergic reaction.
For meeting me at the ER when I had to postpone the second half of my trip back to Oklahoma because I was in too much pain.
For listening to me cry over the phone countless times because of frustration, fear, or pain.
For listening to me complain over the phone countless times because of frustration, fear, or pain.
For listening to me yell over the phone countless times because of frustration, fear, or pain. – See the trend here?
For flying out to Oklahoma to take care of me and be with me when I received my diagnosis.
For taking care of me when I had my tonsillectomy was a baby about it.
For trusting me to take care of myself and not forcing me to move back home as soon as I got sick – allowing me to finish my degree and maintain my independence.
For answering the phone every time I call you – even when that happens about 3 times a day.
For always talking to me when I’m bored and need someone to talk to.
FOR BEING MY BEST FRIEND.
It’s crazy to think that the teenager who was a drama queen and regularly pushed your buttons ended up becoming best friends with her mom. I hope our relationship serves as a beacon of hope for at least one mom struggling to see the light at the end of the tunnel. For the mom who thinks she isn’t getting through to her daughter – who thinks they will never be friends. I think that we’re proof that just because you argue with your teenager, it doesn’t mean you won’t have a strong friendship later in life.
I am sorry for all the arguments we had though.
I wish I was able to celebrate this Mother’s Day with you in person. I hope you have a fantastic day – and can enjoy a ride in your new kayak. I’ll see you soon – and am sure I’ll talk to you on the phone shortly.
Thanks again for being the best mom in the entire world.
I love you.